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Jeannie Prinsen's avatar

Friendship has been a huge issue in my life as well, particularly in the last 10-15 years after a major friend breakup, so I am always interested in what others have to say about the subject. I absolutely agree that transactionality in friendships is poisonous, particularly when it's unspoken and taken for granted. It's also, as you say, very difficult to trust after being burned. Thanks for sharing your experiences so honestly.

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Kimi Harris's avatar

I read once that friendship break ups can be as painful as a divorce for some situations and that’s stayed with me. I’m so sorry you went through this. I find very few of us make it to our 40s without being gutted by at least one friend. I’ve also read that it’s harder to make friends once you are in yours 40s but I’m trying to buck that trend by continuing to open myself up to new people. It’s a process! But I’m thankful for the friendships I’ve made even while still processing and healing from past terrible experiences. ❤️

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