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Stephanie Gail Eagleson's avatar

"All I know is someone is taking a sledgehammer to the walls I painted and loved and they paid me for the right to do so, and what kind of person lets something like that happen?"

"I could not do it. I could not stick it out. No matter how much I loved our home and our neighbors and the library ladies and the streets in autumn and the first snow, I could not stick it out."

"Love may be the greatest of these but it is never enough on its own."

These are the places that made me cry, again, and again, and again. I know that you write about much more than a house. I know what it is to say "There is only so much a home we love that loves us back can do" and also mean family.

Oh, this ache.

I wrote this about a week ago. I hope maybe it helps a little. https://baptistnews.com/article/estranged-for-the-holidays-youre-not-alone/

It's really hard to see how family members have remodeled themselves entirely away from you, too. The last time I saw my sister in person, she was 17. She's 26 now and finally talking to me again.

I didn't recognize her when I first found her new social profile.

Thank you for talking about all these things. And I'm so sad for you, for your home. "What is grief if not love having nowhere to go?" From Wandavision--it remains one of the best encapsulations of this that I've heard.

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Linda Miller's avatar

This is just beautiful, Lore. You are a young woman with an old soul, I mean that as the highest of compliments. My husband and I are coming up on forty years together this year; hard to believe. Several years ago we determined that love is what you go through with somebody. The "long obedience in the same direction" that finally supersedes "transaction" (the low hanging fruit) and moves to "transformation", like those rock formations and streams forged by the forces that shaped them. I can truly say, it's the "suffering with" that brings about the beauty and goodness. Hope you have a glorious time soaking in wonderful experiences of God's goodness to both of you.

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