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Brittany Noetzel's avatar

I know it's not the same, but you're a writer who is nurturing and generative by inspiring others to become one too. A year ago something clicked in me when I read your post considering leaving publishing and how Substack has worked for you. It sparked an idea that I've been exploring quietly and within which finding so, so much life. It's not an overstatement to say that I've begun calling myself a writer again after 20 years in part because you've been showing me how. Thank you, Lore.

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Lore Wilbert's avatar

Thank you. I love this. Really.

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Paige Wiley's avatar

This spoke to such a deep, unexplored place for me. I'm stepping into such a season (task) as well. Thank you for writing this, and doing so earnestly.

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Thelma Nienhuis's avatar

I could have written this, though backwards. I knew the writer in me first, assumed the other had to follow based on the inevitable pattern of a woman’s worth. But my womb will not play and words are truer than my hormones.

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Maile Silva's avatar

Yes, a writer you are, my friend. A writer you most definitely are. Hugs to you.

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Emily's avatar

Not a wife, not a mother, here and yes yes yes. Life is different and still good.

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Brian Lee's avatar

🙌🏼😭❤️‍🩹 So grateful for you.

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Nicole I's avatar

Thank you for writing. Your words need to be read and re-read.

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Bethaney Wilkinson's avatar

Thank you for this, Lore.

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Andrew R. Jones's avatar

Thanks Lore. This resonates with me a lot as a writer whose journey also involves infertility. Two things it reminded me of.

1. Dorothy Sayers once said, in relation to writing anything personal: "Nobody but a god can pass unscathed through the searching ordeal of incarnation."

2. The rapper Black Thought once did 10 minutes of live freestyle, and one line always sticks out to me: "Barbwire my wrist and let it fill the page."

I have to keep telling myself and others that you/I/we are known and beloved. And it's okay to be more fully known and more fully loved by fewer people.

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Kimi Harris's avatar

“I lose friends over the words.

I lose myself over the words not said.”

I feel this and relate to it all the way to my bones. Yes and yes.

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Nicole Eckerson's avatar

Oh my gosh Lore. You have written many stunning things over the years but this is sacred. I almost can't believe you shared something this beautiful with us. Thank you.

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Kris Camealy's avatar

This whole thing made me teary. Lore, this is breathtaking.

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emily w's avatar

Your writing of memories brings many of my own back to me. They all are part of me, some way or another, but I lean on those which have, as you say, made me into me.

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Jamie S. Harper's avatar

Something about this reminds me of Leah in the Bible. It feels haunting and redemptive and beautiful. ♥️

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Schuyler's avatar

I can't find words to express just how much this piece means to my heart. Thank you. 💜

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Haley Kirkpatrick's avatar

I’m so glad you’re a writer. ❤️

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