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This is so beautiful and because I know you are honest it makes it even more amazingly beautiful. It touches deep inside and I believe the way it should be within a marriage. It’s something that we should all strive for, some take longer than others to achieve this. I’m thankful for these later marriage years that bring this into my reality.

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“…but even endings happen slowly over time (usually) when I stop looking for you and you stop looking for me.”

I love this so much. So much of what you’ve beautifully written here is what’s been in my heart. My husband and I believe so differently… but we’re still looking for each other.

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“I’m always looking for him” 😭❤️

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Deeply beautiful. 🤍

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Wishing I could like this over and over. Praying for a constant, ever-growing friendship with my wife for as long as the Lord keeps us here.

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LOVE

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Me and my husband’s love story is much like this one🥹 thank you for writing Lore!

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This is gorgeous, Lore. I relate to this on such a deep level. Long-term monogamy is not all puppy kisses and sunsets, but it can be achingly beautiful, given some time.

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beautiful stuff.

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Beautifully written. Thank you for opening your heart on the page.

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Thank you for reading my heart on the page =)

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Absolutely beautiful, Lore. A litmus test I have always looked for and will continue to do so with even more helpful language now

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I'm so glad it helps =)

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Just beautiful. So grateful for the friendship I have with my husband. Our first date was over four hours long because we just wanted to keep talking. So we got married. Almost nine years in and we still haven't run out of things to talk about. ❤️

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I know there are so many marriages where this friendship doesn't exist, and I don't even blame the marriage or the individuals in it. So many of us were sold a load of goods about sex and attraction and chastity and premarital sex, and it became the Main Thing so much so that so many rushed into marriage without any semblance of friendship. I lament that now. And I also look for the friendship quotient when my friends find themselves coupling up. Yes, I know you love him, but do you LIKE him? I'm grateful you have a story where friendship was there! Our first date was four hours too =)

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Such a thoughtful post Lore....always looking for each other. You probably saw John Blase's post of Sept 3 and the lines from the movie he quoted there about being a witness of your mate's life--similar to what you've spoken of here. And the tenderness toward each other.... My husband died recently after a decline over the last 5 years (we were married 57 years) and I so miss seeing/being seen by the one who knew the good , the bad, the ugly, of me and cherished me in spite of it.

I hope your move went smoothly and that Nate's new job is going well, that you all are adjusting to you new home, that both of your health issues are not quite so bothersome. You mentioned things to pray for in one of your posts before you moved and I want you to know I have been. Looking forward to hearing more about your new location.

Blessings to you!

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I did see it but haven't read it yet! Moving and such, you know. But I've had the tab pulled up for a week now =)

I'm so so sorry about the loss of your husband. I can't imagine losing someone after nearly 60 years together. The space must feel gaping for you. 🧡

Thank you for the prayers, truly. We have needed them and we have felt them!

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So beautiful, thank you.

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This is just so touching. Thank you—both of you—for sharing these things.

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I love this, Lore. Just celebrated ten years with my husband. Everything you wrote is so true.

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