Who Decides Who is Unsafe?

Is it an average? A pattern? A feeling?

I shared this on my Instagram stories yesterday and a bunch of people asked if I could put it in one post so it was more easily shareable. It’s too long for an Instagram post and yet not the kind of thing I often share on Sayable, but if you can deal with a one-off, here’s some things it’s taken me a long time to learn—and to continue to learn.

A note be…