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Johanna Brown's avatar

I just wanted to add my congratulations to you and Nate on your 10th year.!You've shared a lot of your life with us; it doesn't seem like 10 years could've gone by! And too true that y'all have dealt with a lot of hard things. I'm sure everyone misses your writing when you are gone, but we'll have much to look forward to when you get back. Hope this trip to Scotland is wonder full of sights and sounds and people, and that it will bless you both with renewed joy and hope. XO

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Lore Wilbert's avatar

Thank you!

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Emily's avatar

I hope you guys have a wonderful trip!!

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Lore Wilbert's avatar

Thank you!

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Tabitha McDuffee's avatar

Happy anniversary! We’re celebrating 10 years as well this summer. I love the picture of 5th grade, and I’m also thrilled to know we’re not the only nerdy couple who grades our relationship (we’d also say we’re sitting at a solid B with slightly lower grades on certain subjects).

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Lore Wilbert's avatar

You're definitely not the only ones =)

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Ruth's avatar

May your time in Scotland bring you joy.

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Lore Wilbert's avatar

Thank you!

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Natalie Mead's avatar

Would love to hear your thoughts on Scotland! We are planning a trip for the fall, our first since 2017!

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Lore Wilbert's avatar

A trip to Scotland?! I'm sure I'll write about it given some time =)

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Natalie Mead's avatar

Yes, our first time to Scotland!

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Lore Wilbert's avatar

So fun! Where are you headed?

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Natalie Mead's avatar

No idea. Any suggestions? ☺️

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Lore Wilbert's avatar

Ha! Well, when I asked about a year ago, a lot of people said Isle of Skye, so that's where we're going. But the more I've researched it, the more I realize Skye is quite over-burdened with tourism. Unfortunately I didn't realize that until we'd already booked our lodging etc., but I hear some of the outer Hebrides are stunning and shouldn't be missed! Mull and Lewis, etc.. Our dream was Iona but we couldn't make it work on this trip. We tend to like less touristy things.

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Natalie Mead's avatar

Same. We are looking for quiet. Well thank you for allowing me to benefit from your extensive research!

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Nicole Eckerson's avatar

Happy anniversary Lore. We are coming up on 10 year wedding anniversary in a few months. It feels like forever and we still feel so young in marriage. Very fifth grade. 😊

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Jen Rose Yokel's avatar

Wait what 10 how? Exciting! 🎉

(and "feels like forever but also so young" is about right)

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Nicole Eckerson's avatar

This means we have been friends for over a decade! 🎉

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Lore Wilbert's avatar

Congrats! Here too =)

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Cheryl Grey Bostrom's avatar

A thought-growing post, Lore. Thanks for some fresh concepts…& I hope your trip is magnificent!

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Lore Wilbert's avatar

Thank you!

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Camden Morgante's avatar

I had never thought about how a child-free marriage might also miss the hardness. Or I had never thought of that as a bad thing, since children make marriage (and life) exponentially harder. But I can see how that challenge causes you to grow. I also like the idea of a 5th grade marriage. I’m about to have my ninth anniversary. We didn’t get married until 30 which means we’re behind many of our friends here in the Bible Belt, too. But a 4th grade marriage (in my case) is something to celebrate too. Thanks, Lore, and happy anniversary!

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Lore Wilbert's avatar

Children do make life and marriage exponentially harder, but also exponentially happier =) And childless marriage may be exponentially easier, but also exponentially more difficult to find tension/delight.

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Camden Morgante's avatar

Yes, you explained all of that so well in a way I had not considered before!

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Chris Yokel's avatar

Have a great trip!

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Lore Wilbert's avatar

Thank you friend! Maybe we can plan a time for you two to come visit this year?

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Jen Rose Yokel's avatar

Yes! And also happy anniversary! Hope Scotland is absolutely wonderful.

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Chris Yokel's avatar

Yes that needs to happen :-)

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Jemima Spare's avatar

Every time my husband and I do some DIY, we are bound to have what I call a ‘near divorce experience’. Last time it was cleaning the patio. Despite the fact I know people who we can pay to do it properly, apparently since we have a pressure washer, we have to do it.

End result- much yelling as both of us in turn ‘did it wrong’ and all the dirt moved around, but still on the patio.

That’s how we do tension without children…

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Claudia's avatar

Have a wonderful, full of delight holiday!

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Lore Wilbert's avatar

Is it okay that this made me laugh?! DIYs have actually historically been one of our strong points. Hence, taking on renovating an entire house together... We both work really well together and know one another's areas of strength.

Giving/Getting directions while driving? Not so much.

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